Info about this book
Title: Father’s First Steps: 25 Things Every New Dad Should Know
Author: Robert W. Sears and James M. Sears
“Helping Woman labor is much more than coaching her through breathing and pushing. She needs to feel you are connected to her 100 percent, both emotionally and physically.”
3. You and your baby will need some Super Glue
The writer introduce the basic concept of fatherhood – bonding and put the term ‘Super Glue’. The concept is to play with your baby, pay attention, and assist the baby to stimulate his brain and growth. Hold the baby to create ‘Super Glue’ mode.
Baby needs skin-to-skin to make them comfortable. The warm of your touch can make the baby to relax
.During the night, seek nurse to check the condition of the baby, and her mother as well.
Writer showed the advantages and the disadvantages of circumcision; The act of cutting off foreskin of males. The decision is in your hand whether to circumcise or cutting off the prepuce of your children. In Islam, men and women are compulsory to circumcise because we believe that the uncircumcised is exposed to infections and other bad things.
Put all the baby thing on mommy’s head is unnecessary. After all, A father should wax his skill of handling a baby such as changing diapers, feeding food, bathing baby, and playing with kids. As a team, we should have a tolerance between each other so that the baby grows in happy environment.
Writer said that raising a baby was not that pricey; from a bottle of milk to baby clothes. Well, I don’t agree with that. The cost of having a baby is quite substantial nowadays, which is contrary to his point right now.
Some Babies need more attention than any other babies. It is because the baby feels bonded every time he touches the finger of his father. Some babies need to be hugged more, play more, and eat more. That is high maintenance baby, and the writer call it “high-need baby”
Actually, you can do this by communicating regularly through phone. Even though your baby can’t speak, just get him on the phone to get feeling connected with him. Another idea from this point is that you can setup a digital webcam so you can remotely monitor the baby from office.
This point suggested that stay-at-home dad is a promising career. If there’s opportunity to become one, don’t hesitate to take it.
You can watch your favorite movies, Lost Season 6 perhaps, with the baby in your arms; sleeping soundly. It’s an excuse not to run an errand when your wife asks you to do, such as cleaning the dishes, emptying the trash, and wash the clothes. Tell your wife, “How can I help you when I’m holding our sleeping baby?”, and go on watch the TV.
A father must help the baby in developing the growth stimulation especially in motoring skill. Assist him in balancing, hand-eye coordination, finger movements, body rotation, and head muscles.
Postpartum Depression is normally happened to new mother. Scientifically explanation agrees that Prolactin brings imbalance to brain hormones that control mood, and mommy feels like to cry, misery, anxiety after giving birth. Father should be beside mother for moral support.
Bringing your baby to your own bed and sleep beside you, will make baby sleeps more deeply without interrupting both father and mother.
Be prepared to take in charge with the baby thing because mom needs sleep; a vacation.
Giving too much attention to the baby? Without realizing it, you neglected your job as a husband. Arrange your time to have some free time with your wife.
Every father should know the basic symptom of early sickness. Most of the baby shows uneasiness and crying a lot when he fell sick.
A father is essential to stay fit for as long as 30 years later. So that you can play with your grandchildren. How nice is that.
- Give the gift of your time
- Say “I love You” every day
- Try not lose temper with your child
- Generous with praise
- Don’t focus too much on winning
This book should be on every father’s bookshelf instead of fishing magazine because it contains practical guides and solutions so that new fathers like me can understand easily Why this things happened? What I should do next? and How to breakthrough this problems?