Monthly Archives: May 2010

Amirul 27 months old milestones

Most children can do

  • Speaks clearly most of the time – Amirul early stage of pronunciation
  • Puts on clothes – Need my help
  • Jumps up off the ground – He loves to jump.

Half of children can do

  • Builds a tower out of several bricks – He did this since 2months ago
  • Speaks clearly all the time – Nope

A few children can do

  • Draws vertical line -
  • Balances on one foot – He has scooter and already in intermediate level in balancing

Amirul others skills & development

  • Can differentiate between right and left hand
  • He can speak few words now, but hardly understand. However I understand what he said; mum instinct
  • Well discipline ; after drink milk put his milk’s bottle in the sink, throw rubbish inside dustbin, etc

Amirul likes drawing  fish, crane, bus and above is his art work.. huhuh

Amirul & cousins

This is what happened when daddy say no more drawing and took his book and forgot to take the pen

Amirul loves to watch tower crane at YouTube. He know how to click the reply, how to adjust the sound. He learnt through Internet, but be cautious mummy & daddy, our kids still small, we need to supervise them

Note : Read more on 27 months old milestone via BabyCentre

Nice Bloggers Award from CikLilyPutih

1) Copy award nie kat blog korang
Done

2)Buat ucapan korang kpd pmberi award dan perasaan korang
1st of all thank to CikLilyPutih for this award eventho its take a  month to post this . Its my pleasure since this i my 1st award received and also my 1st time i’ve been tagged. Thanks again CikLilyPutih.

3)jawab soalan2 tag nie;

1. Ape yang bermain di fikiran anda sekarang
Can get back my pre-pregnancy weight after I had gained 21 kg for this pregnancy. Lani dah reduce 11kg

2. Apakah nama samaran korang
KambingBujang

3. Berikan 3 orang yang anda sayang
a- Mr Hubby
b- Son (Amirul) & Daugther (Widad)
c- My Family

4. Panggilan untuk si dia
Yayang / Jahid

5. Hadiah yang korang impikan dari seseorang yang istimewa
I have a long listed wish list ; I need corset to shape my body (Premium Beautiful), I want DKNY Be Delicious Parfume, Soft Structure Carrier (SSC).etc

6. Blog mana yang korang suke visit n yang leh aku follow gak
I love parenting blog.

7. Tag kan kepada 15 orang rakan blogger anda

My Confinement Diary : 4 weeks confinement; Widad 1 month old

Wahhh, Its a month already.

My Confinement Routine & Diary

  • Nothing much different from previous week; 6am wake up for breast pumping session , 730am breakfast, 8am take a bath, 9 am watching Tv until 12am, break for lunch, 2 pm – 5 pm sleep. That my daily routine sambil2 melayan kerenah Widad yg kenkadang cranky sangat; nak tido atas lap mummy, nak tido sambil dukung, nak nyoyot every 1/2hrs, and kenkadang nangis tak renti yg serba tak kena sampai mummy penin fikir aper yg tak kena ngn Widad ni.
  • Allergic on my both leg which I’m not sure allergic of what. Luckily only on my both leg which the itchiness relief after I’d apply calamine lotion. Doc suggested me to do skin test to identify the problem
  • Breast milk stocks approximately 15 packs in storage bags and 5bottles consists between 2oz – 4oz
  • My body now more energetic and less lethargic. I’ve took healthy foods and vitamins

Widad 1 month old milestones

  • Widad 1 month old on 28/5/10..


  • She can lift her head up
  • She can turn to side to side.
  • Besides soothing herself with my breast nipple and pacifier, she sometimes suck her thumb.
  • She woke up every 2 hours for milk and I think she consume enough milk as her diaper change is about 6 – 7 times per day
  • She recognize my body’s smell. and I loves to kiss her and smell her and hug her . muahhh

Read more about 1 month old development via BabyCentre

What father should expect for newborn baby

It’s been 3 weeks now and I’m still in the process of adapting the fact that I have two children right now. I am 27 this year and I’m still new to this father things. Raising children is never been easy. Parenting cannot be done with one hand only. Both partners have to help each other in order to make it work.

Since we decided that we manage the family matters ourself instead of seeking help from a maid or domestic helper, I have to take part of taking care my children. Changing diapers, standing, carrying back and forth the baby, and bathing the them are nothing new for me.

I have been through with my first son, and I should know what to expect when we have a newborn baby. For new father, here are the things you should expect;

1. Your Partner is gonna need you. Very. Much. Be the shoulder to your wife. Sometimes my wife cried in the middle of the night or in the morning, showed her frustration that she is not a good mother, she was unable to soothe the baby’s crying. She made a call to my office, transferred his frustration to me, I didn’t know what to do (well i’m not a good father either) but searching through and found twelve reasons babies cry and how to soothe them.

Your partner is really need very much, and as a father, try to be firm and strong for her so that she has something to hang on for a little while. Babysit a baby especially newborn gives a lot of pressure to her lately.

2. Extra Space.I really love single storey house. The space is limited that I feel intimacy with my wife. But she stressed out it is environmentally unsuitable for two kids. They need space for running, and rolling (what?). So move out to a new house; the double storey one.

I foresee that we need larger vehicle, then we need larger compartment, then larger dining table, then larger TV, and freezer for milk storage.

3. Poops. A lot of poops. My baby is 2 weeks old and she’s has utilized almost 2 packs of S-size disposable diapers. Sometimes my baby happened to poops a lot after only seconds my wife changed new diapers. Sometime she pooped three times in an hour. I have experienced with my first child, but I couldn’t remember the frequency of poops the baby made in a day. An average newborn baby moves his/her bowel up to 8 times a day.

4. A headache, and heartache. I should expect that my baby will definitely give me headache and heartache. I should not take it personally. I’ve read that 10% of dads get postnatal depression. Heartbreaking is what babies do, but they didn’t mean to hurt you.

Sometimes things were got into frustration, crying until your ceiling shivers, moaning all night long, you realize everything you did was a waste.  I hope I would patiently get through the baby madness and prevent the postnatal depression.

5. Bonding with your newborn. Touch your baby a lot, massage, kiss, changing his diaper (although I’m not gonna change it until my wife is resume to work.), hug the baby, making faces, having menace with her nose, carry him and make a circle with the living room, give a clear look at my baby about 1-inch closer to his face, give a change to hold your finger. you should feel great when bonding with your own baby,

6. Sex is dinosaur.Your sex life is going to extinct like dinosaurs, if you don’t have initiative to build love boat . But The frequency of having is not the same like the golden age of early marriage. You realized that you don’t have much time to intimate with your partner because your baby needs more attention right now.

The excitement of making love is going to be a little bit shaky as you’ve been disturbed by your baby crying. After that, the momentum has gone as your wife is soothing out the baby. Unless you sit together with your partner and sincerely discuss about how to bring back the golden age and revitalize the art of making love again.

Conclusion. There are certain things happened out of expectations  that make you feel frustrated and furious. To tackle them is to find the best possible way to stay in the circle of sanity. Always have positive thinking about what has happened. Your partner and your children need your support, so maintain your motivation as long as you can.

Photo Credit: fineartamerica

Stopping The Money From Flowing Out Like Endless Rain

Bringing a new member into the family doubles everything, especially the space and the family expenses. We need a new larger house and the food expense is likely to go up, as well as the diapers expense. But our salary stays the same.

Inflation has slightly increased  this year. The groceries like chicken, fish, and prawn appeared to have a new higher price even though the government has put the ceiling price for each item. If then, I should expect to see a slight increase in our household expenses.

I saw the interest rate crawled up by decimal points. But I’m not in the middle of gaining anything big that I have to make a personal loan, and I’m not planning to take it just to cover our day-to-day expenses. That’s a suicide pill. All we have to do is to reduce our expenses. And here are the seven ways how to reduce my expenses for this year:

1. Cloth Diapers. Investing in cloth diapers will give a break to your expense. But you have bear the big cost initially, then you will see the return in the future. It becomes a new way to show to the people that your baby is fashionable too. More and more mothers accept the cloth diapers over disposable diapers. You can compare to how much cloth diaper and disposable diaper really cost.

2. Breastfeeding. My wife have set a new motivating goal; she wants to breastfeeding our baby until she’s 4 years old. I think it is a good idea and I encourage her intention. She started doing search for the best breastfeeding machine, shoveling the best offer in eBay, and give good opinion about it.

The breastfeeding machine, same as the cloth diapers, is expensive for the first time. But it extends as a valuable asset to you. I find an interesting article about breastfeeding milk versus animal milk.

3. Higher standard of hygiene. Keeping hygiene on a higher standard leads you to a healthier life where your family is far away from disease and infection. From washing your hands clean regularly to keeping your house clean, you can rest assured that your children are harmless from bacteria and germs. This also prevent the cost of seeing doctor every year, which we can see it rising higher than our inflation.

4. Hit the Playground or Park.I always choose shopping mall over playground. It have air-conditioner and I don’t get sweat as much as I do in the park. But the problem is once you enter through the arch of a shopping mall, your money gone in 60 seconds. Instead, I bring my children to the playground or park for playing. the temperature is naturally hotter, but I will get used to it.

5. Playing Wii with family. In 2009, Wii console costs you about RM999 in Malaysia. My main reason for buying Wii console was a gift for my wife. She wanted to do exercise to stay fit but she didn’t want to leave her babies. Going to gym only made her felt lonely and miserable. So I bought her a birthday present so that she could do the exercise inside the house.

On weekends, we rarely do our outing like we used to do. It saves us petrol and the other expense such as highway toll and parking fee, and indirectly we reduce car service expenses. Shopping expense is also reduced since we having a great time playing Wii together.

6. Cook your own food and Bring lunch to office. I’ve been bringing my lunch to office since 2007, and it practically saves you a lot of money. When I got married, my wife also doing the same as I am. On weekend, instead of going out and eat at McDonalds which we were usually did, we cook our own lunch and dinner to save money.

7. Buy your office shirt twice a year.I have counted all my expenses for clothing & accessories, and I found out that I have remarkably bought only two shirts for the last year. One was on the day of my birthday. And one was at Jusco sale. Actually I just have no temptation in buying new office wear regularly. I feel so great when I bought one shirt and used it until it faded out.

Conclusion.

Sometimes I couldn’t watch myself get sunk with the temptation. I bought things that I don’t need and I get disappointed after that. Thank god that I have my partner to remind me to keep our expenses on track. I will keep on stopping the money from flowing out like endless rain.

So people, what are your steps to save money for this year?

Photo Credit:nikepresto7

Happy Birthday Yayang and Happy Anniversary

Happy Birthday Yayang

Thanks for unlimited love you give to us.

From Amirul
Daddy, I’m so thankful to Allah for having such a lovely daddy like you. Eventho u like to pinch my thigh, I knew u did that bcoz u love me. You want me to become a good brother and give a good example for my other siblings. Daddy is a friend to me and I LOVE DADDY SO MUCH

From Widad
Daddy,eventho i just knew you for 29days, i can feel your warmth of love. LOVE U DADDY

From Huda aka Mummy
Yayang, your unlimited love is priceless and I LOVE U SO MUCH

NOTE : Don’t forget hadiah anniversary Huda yer..muahhh..macih

My Breastfeeding Diary : My Bitter Sweet Journey

Its my intention to breastfeed Widad since i was pregnant. I started to list out my breastfeeding wishlist, fulfilled it by buying the breastpump, nursing bra, attending breastfeeding preparation class, reading articles and books and now its time to use and apply what I’ve learnt before. Most of people claim that breastfeeding should come naturally and without doubt its true.

However, I’m having difficulty and almost defeated when my breast milk do not come out for 1st 3 day after Widad was born. Its so stressful as she kept on crying for milk and only few drop of colostrum coming out.  Few drops which mean whenever i press my breast, either few drop coming out or not coming out at all. After reading this forum, I had identified reasons why my breast milk production is slowed and delayed

  • Delayed stimulation from Widad – Should i blame the nurse on duty because passed Widad to me 4hours after birth. When they gave Widad to me, she sulks, refused to drink milk and was crying. Its not my fault as i kept on calling them after the perineum sewing part was done, but they ignored me and asked me to wait for doctor. Early stimulation is very important for colostrum production.
  • Less demand Less supply – Most of the time Widad sleep and only drink milk when i woke she up. She less demand for milk,  the milk production was delayed

Problems rise up during my breastfeeding journey

  • Widad jaundiced – Since W less demand for milk, she did not poo from day 2 until day 4. Bilirubin in her body are not removed effectively only through urine and she was jaundiced with 2 phototherapy light for 2 days
  • Sore nipple – After day 3, my breast milk heavily flow. She loves to soothe herself on my breast nipple by sucking it. Sometimes, she can fall asleep with my nipple inside her mouth
  • Incorrect latch – Widad has a small mouth, sometimes she just suck my breast nipple not the whole areola area.
  • Back and neck pain – Since breastfed Amirul, I do not mastered breastfeed in laying down position. Both Amirul and Widad both prefer to drink milk in cradle-hold position and causing their mummy’s back and neck pain

How i overcome the above situations

  • Once the nurse gave Widad to me, I immediately put Widad on my breast and she quickly latched on it. Even tho she still in sulking mode, she latched well with my assistant
  • Sore nipple – I can’t stop Widad from sucking and soothing herself on my breast, I will burp her every 20mins and she will continue sucking
  • Incorrect latch – Assist Widad latch correctly on my breast. Once she open her mouth widely, i immediately put my areola area into her mouth and i can hear gulp sound
  • Back & neck pain – Besides nursing pillow given by Mr Hubby, i still learn breastfeed Widad in laying down position

Note : This is my 1st story to Widad’s breastfeeding journey. There are still long journey to go and hopefully I will have a ‘smooth journey’  with less obstructions.

Endless Cry What Father Should do

The endless cry went on through the night while I need to sleep to recharge my energy. I had to work 8-hour straight in the morning. It’s an arrogance and selfish act if I ignored my partner who fronting the baby alone. Then, I woke up and do what every father should do to assist his wife in soothing the baby cry.

Do nothing. Sometimes your partner don’t want you to do anything stupid. Just sit and wait for the instruction. Since your partner is cruising the ship, you should listen when asked for help.

Often my wife ask me if I can soothe out the baby cry, so my take my daughter off of her hand, do the back and forth in the hall room, tickle her feet, and put her on my shoulder for her to burp. I feel my role in taking care of newborn is minor but I should show the sign I always here for her.

Give a smile to her.. and your baby. Nurturing the newborn requires a hard work. I see my wife exhausted easily when she tries to provide what my daughter demanded. If compared with my first child, this one is a little bit harder to take care of.

My daughter needs to be hugged all the time, she will scream if she notices there’s no hand beside her. In her heart, my partner needs me to think positively towards babysit our newborn baby. Throwing a smile at her when she needed give a lot of relief after putting her strengths to sleep her baby.

If you partner didn’t seem to ask for your assistance, make your move and offer her your help. I always in my opinion that my wife always thought herself as a supermom, that she can do anything superbly. She can do it alone with her superpower without any help. Well, every superhero has weaknesses.

Don’t believe me? Explain what is Kryptonite. Not only that, sometime superhero needs to get reinforcement to kick the bad guys off the street. So, don’t hesitate to help your partner.

It reminds how I hard felt when the first time I was gifted with a baby; A black cloud of tiresome cloaking my body, I slept on my desk every 10 minutes., I could see black rings encircled my eyes in the mirror.

Although I haven’t enough sleeping lately, which doing that may contributes the risk of dying early, I feel good about it. For the sake of my baby, I really don’t mind.

Photo Credit: AskAMum.co.uk

The new baby and the changes she made

My second baby was born on 28th April, 2010. Alhamdulillah that my baby took after my wife, but with additional melanin on her skin, contrary with Amirul. Her nose was flat, round and very flared with short bridge.

Her hair, as I expected, was naturally straight and black. She only inherits my skin color. Everything else, she got from her mother, which is good.

I didn’t know at the moment, to describe about how much love to smell her cheek, and how much I love to hold her all night long. A sudden cheer went inside me when I was changing her diaper. I felt an euphoria high when my nose touched her.

But there are several changes that she made in my life. Some of the changes, I can cope easily as I had an experience with my first baby, and some of them made me harder to breathe.

Here I list out the changes that she made (or will make in near future):

./1. My new baby plan the schedule for me. Once a week I will plan and organize the activities and tasks for the next week, and strictly follow it. I would rather say that it was more efficient when using google calendar because it can be viewed on multiple places such as office.

Since my baby’s arrival, I agreed to babysit her whenever my wife felt exhausted and out of energy. So even when I’m administrating my eBay or writing a blog post, I have to stop and respond when my wife or my new baby needs my help. When this happened several times during my planned task, it disturbed my concentration.

After getting the baby thing done, it took time to develop momentum when I sat to my desk again. .

./2. A little time for myself.. or no time at all. I play Wii games or watch movies whenever I got free time. My daughter took away my free time when she’s doing her thing; crying. My free time was disturbed, just like my sleeping. But I found diamond in it. Instead of playing Wii, I started reading parenting books.

./3. She switched on the zombie mode. I felt numb and sleepy again when doing my work at office. My sleeping hour was disturbed by several crying and moaning. Altthough my wife was in charge in changing diapers as well as breastfeeding at this moment. I felt like a compulsory to accompany her. So as I falling asleep, I was doing head banging in slow motion at my workstation. It was like Amirul, all over again.

./4. My money takes the lighting ride. Since my daughter arrived, I spent a lot of money to fill her small wardrobe. Buying disposable diapers is one of the significant expenses this month. Looking back at the receipt, we have bought 2 packs of newborn diaper in just 2 weeks (it contains 86 diapers per pack). 

./5. I scent her smile whenever I see flowers. As her arrival was announced, suddenly the world was filled up with bright colors and the air was breezing softly. I was the happiest daddy on earth that day. I caught myself smiling just thinking of your smell.

I try to overhauling the timetable or planning other solutions to cater the changes. The only thing that I find appropriate is that I have to sleep early, as early as 8.30 pm and wake up at 3.00 am. Then at 6 am, I take shower and prepare myself to go to work. My baby has changed my timetable, my sleep, and my life. I hope she will change everything that’s good in our life into better ones.

Photo Credit: BostonHerald

When Amirul Refuses To Follow Commands

When Amirul Refuses To Follow Commands

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Amirul got this first pinch (cubit-cubitan) as early as 20 months old. As soon as he understand what his both father and mother are saying, he have to follow instructions. If he followed smoothly without whining and screaming, he gets his reward such as kiss, hug, vitagen, and chocolate.

If he refused to do it just because he don’t want to, he’ll get what I’ve listed down here:

1} Say his name out loud with bold voice. See if he able to understand that I mean serious, and no more play time. Normally he understands and follow the instructions.

2} Staring at him. If the no.1 step fail to excite him, just stare at him, wearing angry look and show the sign I really want him to follow my command.

3} Pinch. I used to get pinched from my mother. I was a naughty boy, the aggressive one who uncontrollable if you don’t slap me, pinch me, or pull my ears. But I practice this step if only number 1 and number 2 fail to register inside his head.

4} Just ignore him. This one is the critical step. Usually I will not hug him after I pinched him no matter how poorly he cried and how strongly hug me at my leg. Soothe him will not suggest any help in developing his discipline.

These are the important things that if Amirul refused to do it, the pinches would land on his tummy:
1} Bathing Time. – If Amirul didn’t want to take a bath after three times I told him, he will get spanked.

2} Breakfast, Lunch, and Dinner – If Amirul still playing and running after received a friendly warning from me.

3} Sleeping Time – Our sleeping time is at 9.30 pm. If he didn’t want to sleep.

I prefer authoritarian parenting style. In fact, the style has been practiced since our great grandfather.  There are good things and bad things about it. You have to contain your anger. If you let the anger controls you, it will hurt your children. Do it with good faith.

The Sleepless Night And Endless Thoughts

My iPod battery had remaining 20% before it completely became useless, as it usually drained out quicker when I play games. So I tried to keep my cool down and pushed away my hatred of waiting. Playing games on iPod was the only way to keep my sanity.

To kill a time before I got any news from the nurse, I touched the Call Of Duty: Zombie War icon again on my iPod. Things became more frustrated when I couldn’t make a breakthrough for Level 13. I always stuck, trapped and got eaten by zombies at Level 12.

At Serdang Hospital, I was surrounded by many anxious husbands and fathers. Their face wore all the same look; Tired and fear, and their eyes were reddening, as well as mine. I felt more comfortable when doing back and forth, rather than sitting numbly with the dead iPod in my hand.

When I think about my family financial needs, a thousand kind of worrisome came to me like a torrent of rain. Is it enough to put my children in warm bed with my current salary? How much money do we have to dig to get a decent living? Could our saving goals be accomplished when our new baby came?

I thought about what should I do for the next 48 hours. I opened up aNote in my iPod and wrote:

  • Register my baby name – After a lot of discussions and talks, we agreed that we named our child Fahri Hakim for boy, and Widad Safiyyah for girl
  • Setup College Education Fund or Higher Education Saving Scheme. – Contributing small amount to her education fund from now would be much easier for her to pursue her studies in future. I had several college education providers for nominations in my head.
  • Review Family Budget – The baby expenses would be inevitably increased. Some expenses like my pocket money, shopping expenses, and other unnecessary expenses, had to be reviewed. The baby first, others second.
  • Read more books - Although I hate reading parenting and baby book (I’m so into fiction), that not a reason for me not to read one. I should look from a good angle that reading them would uncover the deep understanding about the baby growth and behavior.

At that very moment, there were two things that drove my motivation in finding extra money; A new Android smartphone and my family. With the second baby, the diapers would be flipping into double figure, the groceries could be multiplied by three, and the babysitter fee would be certainly twice than before.

After long hours of waiting, my wife finally approached me, and woke me up while I was sleeping on the chair. My eyes refreshed by her look, she’s so beautiful even her tummy size was 13 cm in advance. I hope my baby will take after her. I wish all my children would resemble her beauty and kindness.

“We have to go to Kajang Hospital” “What? No! That place is a zoo, not a hospital.”

“Serdang and Putrajaya are fully utilized. We don’t really have a choice right now,” said my wife. I felt her voice shaking, wanted to tell me how much she hated that hospital.

My Confinement Diary : 3 weeks confinement

Its been 3rd weeks already. Time flies so fast. Another 2 weeks I’m going back to Kelantan.

My Confinement Routine & Diary

  • Started to stock up my breast milk. However I’m not consistently have a routine pumping session. Nevertheless, its a must to have 2 session perday (early morning and afternoon)
  • My insect-bite-like rashes getting better. From red mark turn to brownish mark. Still itchy but lessen compare to pregnant time
  • Back and neck pain – Widad prefer to have milk in cradle-hold position. How i wish i mastered lying down position and Widad give good cooperation. I can sleep while Widad drink milk.. Bestnya. However, thanks to Mr Hubby for giving me myBrest@friend.

Sometimes, widad just wanted to lay down on this nursing pillow

  • How i wish i can start driving here and there. I have so many places to go and shopping to do.. huhuhu
  • Amirul???? Such a loving brother to her sister

Brother and sister

  • My perineum stitches still not fully recover.
  • Widad shown double layer chin. She getting fatter now..

Her double layer chin

  • Widad on day 15 -

I’m bald and beautiful.. huhuhu

  • Widad consistently hungry. Is she hungry??? She can sucking as long as 2 hours. Fuhh… Instead of drinking milk, she soothing herself with my breast nipple.  She felt comfortable and loves to be cuddled.

Speech Delay, do Amirul need to seek speech therapy??

“ANAK saya berusia dua tahun tetapi masih belum bercakap. Bukan tidak boleh atau tidak faham percakapan orang tetapi apabila ditanya, dia hanya menjawab sepatah dua.

“Namun apabila sepupunya yang tua setahun daripadanya datang ke rumah, banyak juga perkataan keluar daripada mulutnya,” keluh seorang ibu bercerita mengenai anaknya. Full article here

According to this article, there are two type of speech delay; delay in expressive and delay in receptive. To my observation, Amirul is delay in expressive group which means he having difficulty with speech to seek or engage or in other word difficult to interact. He started to pronounce certain vocabs however he having difficulty to speak out the word.  His vocabs now; wow, go, ma, memilk, bah. He understands most  instructions not only from me and Mr Hubby but from others as well without need of shown in the act by instructors, recognize his parents and relatives, react to the body gestures and face expressions; he knew mummy/daddy angry at him when we shown him finger pinch, understands people speaking;he scolded us if we talked about him, and pointing at the body parts and objects .

The problem is now, either Amirul do need speech therapy or his speech development will develop with his increasing age. Me and Mr Hubby had decided to see speech therapy when Amirul 2 1/2 years old  or the latest by 3 years old.

My MIL asked me to teach Amirul ABC using phonetics system; sound of human speech. Below vidoe is how ABC teached according to phonetic system

Note: Hopefully, Amirul start to speak soon.

My previous entry about speech delay.

My Confinement Diary : 2 weeks confinement

My Confinement Diary : 2 weeks confinement

My Confinement Routine & Diary :

Widad day 5 and confirmed  jaundice.I went to KK Bangi to checked her jaundice level and immediately the doctor referred Widad to Hosp Serdang. Her jaundice level was 16 and admitted at NICU for 2 days. 2days stayed at NICU really give me a very a new experience. I saw various of babies with various cases of illnesses. Ader yg berselirat with tube, ader yg dok dlm incubator, ader yg helplessly non-stop crying. ader yg kena jaundice sampai kena blood transfusion. mmg sgt sedih and thanks Allah Widad only jaundice with 2 photo therapy light

Widad jaundice symptoms; its likely breastfeeding jaundice

  • Yellowish eyes and yellow spot on her skin when i press a finger against her skin
  • She did not poop from day 2 until day 5. Diaper change for wee wee 5 – 6 times daily. Its not sufficient to get rid the bilirubin from her body.
  • Most of the time she would  sleep and i need to wake her up for feeding (poor feeding pattern). Sometimes she just laid my breast inside her mouth and she fall asleep. Sleeping beauty that worry mummy a lot

Treatment for Jaundice : Put under photo therapy light & frequent breastfeeding

Widad day 13

She getting fatter. She drink milk every 2 -3 hours then fall asleep. After wake up from her sleep, she cry for milk again and poop and wee wee..

 

  • Myself getting better in term of sufficient rest and energy
  • Bengkung is my best friend. Day and nite, i always wear it
  • Started to pump my breast milk however still do not stock up any EBM for after confinement stock
  • Widad sleep during day time and awake at night
  • Had lost 8kg, another 13kg to go… chaiyok Mummy Huda

Read more on neonatal jaundice via Wikipedia

Note : Now Widad jaundice level was 8.5. Alhamdulillah.

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  4. Give your Mei Tai a name.
  5. Tell us why you should be the lucky winner through your blog/twitter/facebook that link back to us (http://meistai.wordpress.com)

I have to be lucky winner for CUSTOME MADE Mei’s Mei Tai for free because:

  • I want my baby always next to me like she was 37 weeks 2days in my womb, hear the music of my heart beat and feel the warmth of my body.
  • I can ” wear” my baby on the back or front with the baby facing me while I’m doing daily house choas so that i wont ignore her need and always be at her sight
  • I want to “carry” her whenever I go outing or stroll down in park
  • I can have a hassle free during shopping time
  • Mei Tai baby carriers giveme and baby Widad versatility, comfort and style
  1. Email to us with the subject: (Contest; *your mei tai’s name*):
  • Your Mei Tai design (no we don’t ask you to draw :p) just email to us (meismeitai at gmail dot com) your fabric selection & how you want the Mei Tai to be.
  • The link to your  blog/twitter/Facebook

The requirement:

We made it easy! Just become our fan on facebook and shout about this contest!

Incredible Birth Story of Princess Widad Safiyyah bt Mohd Mujahid

28 Apr 2010, 12 am, master bed room @ home sweet home

12am
- Water bag broke, however I’m not sure bcoz I think i want to wee wee instead of broken water bag. After few minutes, more water comes out. Still doubt about the water bag breaking thingy, me and Mr hubby still wait and i just wearing maternity pad to confirm either its just wee wee or my water bag really broke. After 3 pads confirmed wet and the water keep coming out, me and Mr Hubby immediately took hospital and  Amirul’s bag and ready to Hosp Serdang

1am
After everything all in the car, 1st thing 1st was top up our hand phone. uhukkssss. The most important source of communication, so we stopped at 7-eleven and top up RM10 each. Enough meh??? Enough for important call and baby arrival announcement. After that, we sent Amirul to MIL’s house and straight away went to Hospital Serdang.  After registration process done, I need to do CTG and wait for doctor to do vaginal examination (V.E) to check my vaginal dilation. Ohhh I hate V.E. The Chinese doctor who did my V.E claim my vaginal  just 1cm dilate, 2seconds later he said already fully dilate. whattt !!!!, then suddenly he said 4cm.. aper punya doc la ni. Then she asked nurse to re-check and she confirmed my vaginal  only 4cm.

2am
Another nurse re-checked my vaginal dilation and confirmed only 3cm. Ishh dorang main2 la.. main2 suka hati seluk , and suka2 hati cakap bper cm.. ishhh. Total, 3 person did V.E for me.. cesssss

“Pn Nurulhuda we would like to inform you that our hospital currently do not have enough room for you and we only left 1st class room. We need to transfer you to Hosp Kajang”
” ahhh, Its ok, i’ll take 1st call room. How about Hosp Putrajaya”
” Sorry, Hosp Putrajaya also full and the only option left is Hosp Kajang. You can discuss with your husband and tell us what’s your decision”
” Yayang, so…. the only option is Hosp Kajang and Huda tak nakkkkkk. Yayang pun tak nak.. tapi that the only option yang ada.. Redha je la Huda . Kita pegi jela Hosp Kajang”
With ambulance and Mr Hubby followed from behind, we heading to Hosp Kajang. Only Allah knew how my feeling that time sbb Hosp Kajang adalah hosp koboi.. satu lagi dorang ckp, Hosp Kajang ni scary aka berhantu.. uhukssss..erhmm

3am
Reached Hosp Kajang. 1st impression was, “Hosp ni ke aku nak bersalin nanti, sadisnya” Without delayed, i just proceed to labour room and proceed to CTG checked up and followed by V.E checked up after 1hrs. This time, Indian doc did the V.E, memang 1Malaysia betul la.. Melayu, Cina, India did my V. E; sungguh muhibbah.. Its almost 5am and i feel the contractions was every 10minutes. Ya Allah its so painful, however thanks to correct breathing technique that i googled,its really help me lessen the contractions pain. Sampai kan nurse pun tak caya bler doctor ckp my vaginal already 7cm dilate. Muka cool jer.. uhksssss. Mummy Huda yg hebat.. uhikssskss

5am
In labour room;
“Pn bler nak push baru call saya yea”
“Boleh lak cam2, kalu aku panggil dier tak dgr camner.. adoiii. Dugaan sungguh nak bersalin kt sini.”
515am : I called nurse and she prepared all the receiving baby tools and i started pushing part. Pushing technique dah btl, cume nafas pendek, so baby still lagi unable to come out.
530am : Still unable to push the baby out and i saw the midwife taken out the sciccors. Redha jela. Memang nafas ku pendek and baby susah nak kuar if my perineum tak di gunting.
547am : I heard baby 1st cry and the midwife show the baby private part. Baby is a girl. Alhamdulillah. 3 weeks earlier from EDD, rejected by Hosp Serdang to Hosp Kajang, without help of entonox gas, without Mr Hubby beside me to give support I managed to deliver Baby Widad Safiyyah thru normal delivery.

Kajang Hosp, 1st Class Room – cantik kan, tapi labour room sgt la koboi. huhuh

Mummy’s  face -  can you see my swollen eyes, still ceria eventho almost 8 hrs tak tido.

Widad 1st latch

Amirul 26 months old Milestones

Most children can do

  • Takes of clothes – With my help
  • Name several body parts – No
  • Builds a tower of three or four building bricks – Click here photo of Amirul’s building up 2 3 of building bricks

Half of children can do

  • Washed and dries hand – Yes
  • Brushes teeth with help – Yes
  • Puts on clothes – With my assistant. Now he’ll choose his own clothes.
  • Speaks clearly most of the time – Nope, Mumbling stage
  • Throws a ball overarm – Yes

A few children can do

  • Speaks clearly all the time – No
  • Draws vertical line – Yes

Amirul other skill’s and development

  • Add new vocab – Milk – memilk, Chicken – ken, Daddy – abah (????)
  • Understands more instructions – I loves this, More instructions meaning less works for me.. uhksssss
  • Now sleep at 10pm. So need more activities for him.. Any suggestion besides watch cartoon.
  • Addicted to tractors (transportation toys). Tapi disebabkan mummy bought tractor2 yg murah jer rm10/pc, so teramat la mudah la rusak . xper give him explore aper yg dier nk buat.
  • Familiar with animals sound. Tiger sounds aummmm, Dinosaur sounds raoummmm, cat sounds nyiourrr.. thanks to all the cartoon movies download by Mr Hubby. Amirul loves watching cartoon and he learn from that too.
  • Scared to strangers . Even to close relatives  (atok, eyang, aunties and uncles). Good side which he won’t go far from my sight and bad side for me, I can’t do anything if Mr Hubby not around. He too attached with me
  • He likes to jump, run – active boy
  • I think Amirul ni seorang yg pemalu likes his daddy.. uhkssss
  • Become a very protective brother.. ” Jgn kacau bb saya la” uhukssss
  • Sometimes he loves to attract poeple attention when widad is around

Future architect


Amirul & Tractor

Read more on your toddler development at 26 months old via BabyCentre

Confinement Set

Another 4 weeks to go then i’ll be confinement period. Hopefully everything will be fine as for me and baby inside the womb. Dalam pada busy to moving-to-new-house, baby arrival preparation still tidak dilupakan. One last thing that still pending for few weeks is my confinement set. There are so many choices that i can choose from,but which one is the most convenience to use and practical for me.

Last time, I’d used Nyonya Maneer which my MIL bought it during her Bandung trip.

Sharing my experience with this confinement set in term of :

  • Product Info – I did not do any research on confinement set previouly. Just accept anything that gave by MIL
  • Suitability of product – I think this confinement set is suitable for me as its do not intervene my milk productions. Plus i started taken this product after 30days as Amirul having quite high jaundice level. Its not recommended to take ‘jamu’/ herb if baby had jaundice
  • Buy in package or separately – Its come with package
  • Side Effect of the product – No side effect to me and Amirul
  • Price – Rm 65
  • Set contains : Pilis, param,tapel, minyak telon for baby
  • etc : This set do not have bengkung, mandi herba, minyak panas for mom, after birth capsule,

My option for this time :Amway Confinement Set

consists : Herbal Tea, After birth capsule, Feminine wash, Herbal bath, Herbal massage oil, Baby oil, Herbs to be applied on tummy, Herbs to calm the body, Herbs to prevent water retention and enhance blood flow, etc)

Nyonya Maneer

consist : pilis, tapel, parem, minyak telon, etc

Shaklee Confinement Set, photo by : Crazy Mommy.com

consist : Vita -C, B Complex, Vita lea, Alfalfa Complex

For more info about Nyonya Maneer Confinement set, please click here

Note : However, since I had delivered Baby Widad 3 weeks earlier than my EDD, so read my new experience of homemade jamu from my MIL in other entry.

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