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Amirul got this first pinch (cubit-cubitan) as early as 20 months old. As soon as he understand what his both father and mother are saying, he have to follow instructions. If he followed smoothly without whining and screaming, he gets his reward such as kiss, hug, vitagen, and chocolate.
If he refused to do it just because he don’t want to, he’ll get what I’ve listed down here:
1} Say his name out loud with bold voice. See if he able to understand that I mean serious, and no more play time. Normally he understands and follow the instructions.
2} Staring at him. If the no.1 step fail to excite him, just stare at him, wearing angry look and show the sign I really want him to follow my command.
3} Pinch. I used to get pinched from my mother. I was a naughty boy, the aggressive one who uncontrollable if you don’t slap me, pinch me, or pull my ears. But I practice this step if only number 1 and number 2 fail to register inside his head.
4} Just ignore him. This one is the critical step. Usually I will not hug him after I pinched him no matter how poorly he cried and how strongly hug me at my leg. Soothe him will not suggest any help in developing his discipline.
These are the important things that if Amirul refused to do it, the pinches would land on his tummy:
1} Bathing Time. – If Amirul didn’t want to take a bath after three times I told him, he will get spanked.
2} Breakfast, Lunch, and Dinner – If Amirul still playing and running after received a friendly warning from me.
3} Sleeping Time – Our sleeping time is at 9.30 pm. If he didn’t want to sleep.
I prefer authoritarian parenting style. In fact, the style has been practiced since our great grandfather. There are good things and bad things about it. You have to contain your anger. If you let the anger controls you, it will hurt your children. Do it with good faith.