My second baby was born on 28th April, 2010. Alhamdulillah that my baby took after my wife, but with additional melanin on her skin, contrary with Amirul. Her nose was flat, round and very flared with short bridge.
Her hair, as I expected, was naturally straight and black. She only inherits my skin color. Everything else, she got from her mother, which is good.
I didn’t know at the moment, to describe about how much love to smell her cheek, and how much I love to hold her all night long. A sudden cheer went inside me when I was changing her diaper. I felt an euphoria high when my nose touched her.
But there are several changes that she made in my life. Some of the changes, I can cope easily as I had an experience with my first baby, and some of them made me harder to breathe.
Here I list out the changes that she made (or will make in near future):
./1. My new baby plan the schedule for me. Once a week I will plan and organize the activities and tasks for the next week, and strictly follow it. I would rather say that it was more efficient when using google calendar because it can be viewed on multiple places such as office.
Since my baby’s arrival, I agreed to babysit her whenever my wife felt exhausted and out of energy. So even when I’m administrating my eBay or writing a blog post, I have to stop and respond when my wife or my new baby needs my help. When this happened several times during my planned task, it disturbed my concentration.
After getting the baby thing done, it took time to develop momentum when I sat to my desk again. .
./2. A little time for myself.. or no time at all. I play Wii games or watch movies whenever I got free time. My daughter took away my free time when she’s doing her thing; crying. My free time was disturbed, just like my sleeping. But I found diamond in it. Instead of playing Wii, I started reading parenting books.
./3. She switched on the zombie mode. I felt numb and sleepy again when doing my work at office. My sleeping hour was disturbed by several crying and moaning. Altthough my wife was in charge in changing diapers as well as breastfeeding at this moment. I felt like a compulsory to accompany her. So as I falling asleep, I was doing head banging in slow motion at my workstation. It was like Amirul, all over again.
./4. My money takes the lighting ride. Since my daughter arrived, I spent a lot of money to fill her small wardrobe. Buying disposable diapers is one of the significant expenses this month. Looking back at the receipt, we have bought 2 packs of newborn diaper in just 2 weeks (it contains 86 diapers per pack).
./5. I scent her smile whenever I see flowers. As her arrival was announced, suddenly the world was filled up with bright colors and the air was breezing softly. I was the happiest daddy on earth that day. I caught myself smiling just thinking of your smell.
I try to overhauling the timetable or planning other solutions to cater the changes. The only thing that I find appropriate is that I have to sleep early, as early as 8.30 pm and wake up at 3.00 am. Then at 6 am, I take shower and prepare myself to go to work. My baby has changed my timetable, my sleep, and my life. I hope she will change everything that’s good in our life into better ones.
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