“Sit down when you while having your lunch,” I said. He was running with loads of food in his mouth. After several positive words and nice instructions lead to an end road, I was forced to punish him with several pinching and spanking.
So I always use the 3 steps below in parenting my children:
Step  Ask him Softly like “Please”. I take the softest technique and see whether he listen to me or not. I always ask him “please” and “let’s do it together”.
Step  Reward him. If step 1 didn’t work. I try you-do-it-you-get-reward method. For example: “Amirul. Listen. If you take a bath right now, I give you Vitagen or you can watch Toy Story 3 all day.”
Step  Cubit and Jentik. My cubit and jentik is not the mild one. My pinching is hard and my son always in the state of screaming in tears when he received this. I do this because I want him to bear in mind that if you not listen to what Daddy said, after you ignored Step 1 and Step 2, I will send an apocalypse to your world.
After a while, I’m rarely using the step 3 as I would send reminder to him every time he act badly in my softest voice, “Nanti Daddy cubit karang.”
Hearing that my word make him startled, and he responds firmly and obey every word I’ve said after that.