Use positive word to children so they will behave positively and thrive? I don’t think so. They will be spoiled if you do that. For me, you must have at least pinch or spank your children as a last resort, if all the soft techniques in the world have failed. If you don’t believe, look the west countries, especially in US. See how bad they treat their parent.
Authoritarian and Authoritative Parenting is very, very addictive and abusive, once you are using it under emotional stress. We want to use it wisely to put everything in order, but end up in abusively transferring our rage to our children; you always want to punish them if they refuse or even hesitate with your orders.
Remember, beatings, yelling and punishing constantly are not the elements of the parenting styles. Those are domestic violence.
You can hit, yell, punish, rotan, or whatever you want that you feel appropriate. There’s nothing wrong with that. But give your children a chance by correcting them using soft techniques. If they don’t listen, then there’s nothing wrong to punish them.
You have the power, use with your brain. Don’t abuse it, or else you will be on tomorrow’s front page news.
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