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In the western civilization, most of the people are against the Tiger Parenting approach, maybe because it seems too harm to raise a children like that. It’s like next domestic violence. But the truth is, like my own family, we need some sort of force to get us in line. My mother is an asian tiger; when we failed, she sinked her fangs into our skins.
Matt Davidson wrote:
Invariably this approach results in a selfish, temperamental prima donna lacking essential interpersonal skills for being a good team member, and lacking courage and grit in the face of challenge. It may seem like tough love designed to prepare kids for the “real world”, but in reality it’s a lethal combination of human neglect and overt coddling resulting in a cat without claws that is at the core soft and insecure.
There’s no, whatsoever, a proven scientific study that tiger parenting or authoritative parenting is bad — so bad it will give huge impact in negativity to the child’s emotion, education and health.
I have 6 six siblings and everyone of us were excel in school and university. All of us got straight As in UPSR, above average result of PMR & SPM, and graduate with bachelor’s degree. Two of us even have Master’s Degree. And I’m about to take class for a Master’s Degree as well, next year. Now, tell me what is wrong with Tiger Parenting?
Matt Davidson wrote:
This is the truly unfortunate part of the polarizing discussion that has, in my opinion, resulted from Chua’s work on Tiger Parenting: it has entrenched parents on opposite ends of equally wrongheaded approaches to developing the excellence and ethics needed for success in school work and beyond.
For conclusion, the goal of parenting is to achieve our children’s needs and demands until they can figure out on their own. Whether it is Tiger Parenting or soft parenting or other parenting approach as long as it’s effective to meet our goal.
