This week question on Quora is:
Is Amy Chua right when she explains “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior” in an op/ed in the Wall Street Journal?
Chinese mothers are superior. I respect them for what they sacrifice for their children. Their method, unfortunately, makes other people, especially in Western cultures, feel uncomfortable, offended. Strict parenting such as spanking is one is the best method in Asian cultures. I grew up in strict parenting, and I appreciate my mom for that. I become a better man.
I don’t know if you guys notice but, I have observed a mother of three children who was so strict and fierce, the kids were so behaved, they did show manners to people around them. However, I notice answer regarding suicide statistics among Asian teens
Suzan Song, global child/adolescent psychiatrist
My mom had stopped being so fearsome when I went to secondary school. From the day 1 of being Form 1 boy at boarding school, my mom had been approaching me by giving thoughtful advice. Strict parenting suppose to stop when our children decide things on their own. Feel pressure if they’re being treated as a small child.
Even with spanking, swinging rotan, and spanking, my affection for my mother is inflating as I get older:
In recent years, when I compare notes with my Chinese American friends and peers, one thing I consistently hear was the lack of love from their parents, or that the love was conditional on success. I never had that. My parents loved me no matter what and they made that clear, not just in words, but in actions. Despite every time I got scolded (man, the English word for scold, which is the correct translation, does not begin to really capture the hurricane of verbal abuse a Chinese woman is capable of), it would hurt and build resentment, but I could never look back and not see it coming from love and hopeful expectation for my future. Everything that they did, every sacrifice that they made, was to give me a better future than the past that they came from.
Daniel Shi, Chinese
Every parenting method has its pros and cons. All that I think of is to weight our decisions upon nurturing our children in the most awesome way, or we can mix and cook all of the method in a lab and produce the hybrid one.