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Amirul turn 5 last Friday (Feb 8) and he is the first child of the family. Of course both me and Mr Hubby have high expectation on him especially becoming role model to his siblings and can take care of the family if unfortunate happen to Mr Hubby. Raising a well-rounded child especially boy is a challenge. Time, effort and patience are the key words to success in rising a well-rounded boy.
With Amirul personality : soft spoken, interested in Daddy’s gadget rather than socialize with people, and hard to focus are additional challenges that we need to overcome.
Reading tips for raising a well-rounded boy from Baby Centre, some of the tips are true and some are not.
TIP 1 : Give him some responsibility – Following instruction and finishing tasks are skills that are often slow to develop in boy
OUR OPINION : This is true. Responsibility makes Amirul more responsible. We give routine to Amirul. After finished playing the toys, don’t leave the toys in mess. He need calls Widad and together both of them do the clean up.
TIP 2 : Let him show his emotions -It’s much healthier than bottling it up. Then, once he’s calmed down, you can talk to him about what he’s feeling and why
OUR OPINION : This is true. Amirul shows tear and anger towards his sister/ friends. Nevertheless,we teach him to be patient and learnt to be tolerate. But, there is time when he restrain tear coming out.
TIP 3 : Give him plenty of physical affection - Even if he says he doesn’t want any affection, he still needs it just as much
OUR OPINION : This is true. Affection soften Amirul’s mischievousness. I always remind myself now is the time I need to shows all the affection cause as he is growing older, he’s likely to shy away from hugs and kisses just like Mr Hubby. Furthermore, Amirul loves to hug and kiss both of us. There is time when I feel suffocated with his loves affection towards me. Non stop hugs and kisses.. ngeeee.
TIP 4 : Don’t try to cease his enthusiasm - Just make sure you remind your son that there are times and places when he’ll need to calm it down a little
OUR OPINION : This is true. Mr Hubby always give freedom to his children to explore. Adventure is out there but do not off the limit.
TIP 5 : Don’t worry if he likes ” girls things” - It’s a great way for him to develop his kind and nurturing side
OUR OPINION : This is true. He cuddle teady bear, he becoming a loving brother and son.
TIP 6 : Work on his social skills - Boys don’t form close friendships
OUR OPINION : Yes Amirul is anti-social once. As he grow older, he starts making friends, share his belonging. Every evening, I would let Amirul socialize with the same age neighborhood.
TIP 7 : Introduce him to music - Music lessons can also sharpen a young child’s thinking skills and improve memory
OUR OPINION : Not time yet. Amirul do not fascinate music. I don’t mind if he do not captivate the music. Ngeeee
TIP 8 : Encourage his interest
OUR OPINION : This is true. We found that Amirul loves drawing. We encourage him drawing and he feel so bless and happier. Amirul would draw anything he likes for few weeks or month until he find new liking
TIP 9 : Appraise the positives - being good and let him know that you appreciate the effort.
OUR OPINION : This is true. We always reward and appraise Amirul. Rewards normally chocolate or his favorite foods.
Mummy, Daddy & Adik love you abang
Alhamdulillah, today Amirul turn 5 years old. Recall back the moment when he came out from my womb, the feeling when the nurse putting him on my chest, breastfed him and that is the day I become a mother. The feeling is totally can not be described with words. I’m so thankful to Allah swt for this precious gift. Semoga Amirul membesar menjadi anak yang soleh dan sentiasa hormat pada mami and dadi
He talks a lot nowadays. Requesting so many answers which sometimes, Mummy headache to give an answer. Such of his queries :
Just now i asked him, Abang anak mami ke dadi.
oo Abang anak Mami. Thanks abang.
First day of school. New school,new environment, new teacher – wish you all the best dearie children. May you become soleh and solehah children. Amin
Alhamdulillah Amirul can write his own name including mami, dadi and widad. To me and Mr Hubby it’s a huge improvement and we very proud of him.
I knew it’s nothing compare to other kids and he is on track which is what in the book said as what 4 years old milestones should be. I am typical mom who is very proud of their kid achievement. Our kid always the best.
Talking about Amirul year end performance, there are room for improvement and mami knew that she needs to work hard on homeschooling. Do not depend too much at school when parent been proven is the best teacher.
Collage
Nevertheless,i’m thinking to enroll amirul into islamic montessari near to our house. There are pros and cons about transferring kids to new school. So what say you mami out there. Any opinion to share.
There are few reasons why I’m looking new school and daycare to them:
(1) The current school have frequently cuti peristiwa and very short notice was given to us. While I’m spending wisely on our annual leave, the school always making us to have emergency leave.
(2) Whenever there is school trip,the day care automatically close. Again we need to take emergency leave
(3) The safety of the place is doubtful. amirul and widad both injured twice
(4) The owner of the school force the kids to consume Herbalife with extra pay into the monthly fee
(5) The current school no activities for afternoon. I’m looking for Islamic programs for afternoon session.
1st word : WOW
2nd word : Bestnya
3rd word : 1 month stay pun ok, if playroom dier cam gini.. uhukkk
I never been in the hospital that have a big playroom fully occupied with everything that kids love. Normally, there only 1 big slide with finger-counted development toys provided. But at HUKM, its totally different. Keep on saying Wow and Bestnya and also give few idea how to organize always-messy Amirul’s toys at home. While Amirul keep telling me, “Mami, nanti amik Widad yer, Widad pun nak main playground gak”. Brotherly love
[1] 1/2 staffs will be in charge for this playroom. They can take care of your kid if you need to go somewhere else or settle hospital matters. They are well trained, so no need to worry to leave your kid there. I did and Amirul was happy there. She also responsible to handle the daily activities, clean the toys,
[2] Books and magazines , soft toys, push car, tv, tables and chair. All the items inside this playroom are donated by NGO and its very in tip top condition, well maintained and very clean. Look at the above photo. The playroom’s assistance cleaning the toys using wet cloth and with the help of tooth pick, to clean the smaller parts. She said this to me, when i stared at her with frown face. “Kena la bersih btl2 semua toys ni, karang budak2 masuk mulut, lambat sihat dorang ni. kesian tau.”
Soft Toys area
Plenty of books and magazines, comic to select
Activity area
Look at the toys, no wonder Amirul don’t want to go back to the ward
[3] Different activities will be held each day. Colouring contest, craft, mathematics,. The patients won’t get bored, will be entertain with the activities provided and fully occupied while being warded here. Not only the kids, mummy also have magazines, tv and piano to play as well. Both kids and parent are happy!!!!
happy face. He doesn’t know that he need to fasting before the surgery on the next day.
No foods and drink and make him understand what “puasa/fasting” is so much difficult than i ever thought.
This is Amirul last Feb, the surgery was cancelled
This is Amirul,29/6/12 in OT.
He is crying for his Ben 10 shirt from the ward to OT. Aduhai anak tetap Ben 10 kan??
Waiting for anesthetist to put him to sleep.
This is the ‘ thing’ taken out from his neck
[1] 2D1N stay at HUKM is quite challenging since I need to do from A to Z as Mr Hubby is working and have to take care of Widad. Drive to HUKM – ward admission – operation theater - discharge from ward – drive to home all by myself. Alhamdulillah, syukur Allah help me alot and make thing went smoothly. The nurse is very helpful and the playroom is very good idea for people like me who is all alone to settle hospital matters. Will share HUKM’s playroom in another post
[2] Before the surgery, Amirul had an incident as the nurse claim. Fall down cause by slippery floor. The nurse and doc panic, they afraid might affected the tomorrow surgery as the blood is coming out from Amirul’s gum. Alhamdulillah, nothing to worry.
[3] The surgery took almost 1hours , discharge on the same day. weehuuuu. Widad is missing abang and mami
[4] Next appointment on 30/7/12
What is Excision of Right Brachial Cyst/Sinus???
A cyst is a swelling with liquid inside it. The liquid in your cyst comes from the lining of the swelling. The lining is made from tissues, which were connected with your tonsil area before you were born. It is not a serious swelling.A branchial cyst is a swelling in the neck, which has fluid inside it [privatehealth.uk]
Do you remember Kisah Sang Kancil dan buaya, Jangan Monyet, Bagai Anjing dan bayang-bayang, Kisah Gagak yang bijak and few more.
These are the stories that I’m grow up with. Simple stories that is full of examples and messages. Good for toddlers and preschooler. Unlike kids nowadays who like to watch Ben 10, Boboiboy, Upin & Ipin, Princess Barbie – not forgetting my own Amirul & Widad, exposing to this stories may develop their correct Bahasa malayu, and proverb, and not forgetting adding new vocabulary. I do not know that mergastua is animals live in the jungle. I though mergastua is a bird. huhuhu
Recently, there is tv programs at Astro, Pada Zaman Dahulu. This tv series is about Aris and Ara as they experience the simple life in the village and embark on Sang Kancil’s adventures. Tho is new version of Kisah dan Teladan, I still prefer to have Kisah dan Teladan from Filem Negara Malaysia tho its animation is less attractive compare to Pada Zaman Dahulu series.
I started to introduce the Amirul and Widad to these stories and they are really enjoy with this simple yet entertaining.The message is easily understood
The following are the Kisah dan Teladan stories that i like
Kisah Sangkancil dan Buaya :
Lesson learn :
[1] Air yang tenang jangan di sangka tiada buaya
[2] Sepandai-pandai tupai melompat, akhirnya jatuh ke tanah jua
Meaning :
[1] Orang yang diam jangan disangka pengecut.
[2] Orang pandai kadang-kadang buat silap
kisah jangan monyet
Lesson Learn : kita hendaklah mendengar nasihat orang lain
Kisah Gagak yang Bijak :
Lesson Learn : Byk perkara yang dapat diselesaikan sekiranya kita menggunakan akal
Kisah arnab dan kura-kura :
Lesson Learn : Jangan menghina orang yang lemah, kerana menghina itu akan merugikan diri sdn
Yes, its school holiday and also report card day.
Amirul overall performance
Amirul’s book for 1st semester - Science, Math, English, Jawi
Amirul learnt “How to read” using this book.
The school is using Mari Membaca E-XTRA Fast Reading Program.
Instead of A, B, C, D Amirul recognize as Aa, Ba, Ca, Da, Fa
Islamic education. Amirul most remembered doa’ – Doa Makan..
If Im not mistaken, the school are using Al Barqy method
Amirul’s handwriting. Alhamdulillah, Amirul can write the dotted line alphabets.
He still needs assistant to write sentences and still can’t recognize correctly the alphabets.
Kadang tertukar B with D
Creative projects
Muqaddam – Amirul always fall asleep while reading the Muqaddam.
Always at the back of the group. Oh Amirul, sila jangan malas membaca Al-quran
Teacher’s comment. AMIRUL IS A GOOD BOY
Children when they frustrated/ acquired for attention/ in the disappointment, they will throw out tantrums. Tantrums strike regardless place or time. They will shouting, roll on the floor, rush around the room; wild and screaming throwing things in his hand like toys, milk bottles, etc. They actually out of control; neither we nor them can control their own feeling.
She may scream and scream until she makes herself hoarse; makes herself retch; even makes herself throw up [ source: Babycentre]
Amirul : 4 years old
Amirul starts SULKING / WHINING/ SCREAMING -
with this one powerful sentence ” Abang nk kena cubit/ scold ker?? ” terus Amirul behave
Video : Widad : 2years Old
How to handle tantrums :
Happy Teacher’s Day
I’d read this article at parenting.com which i found quite interesting. The real difference between boy and girl. Alhamdulillah. I have a pair which me and Mr Hubby feel the differences between rising a little prince and princess
Little Ben 10 was here!! Ready for actions
Digger, tractor, car etc
His first step at 11months old
Daddy’s LittlePrincess is in the house
Put baby to sleep. patting and sing lullaby. Ya Allah. Ya Allah. Ya Allah. [berzikir]
Amirul 4, Widad 2. Both doing art using water color. Widad suka makan sdn, Amirul memanjang nk kena suap haishhhh
Its amazing true and rising both of them giving us new challenges and adventures
Amirul : Mummy tadi abang naik bus, abang tgk big fish, small fish, crab, sotong. Pastu abang give fish eat. Mummy nanti abang nak naik bus ngn mumm la.
I can see the excitement through his voice, face expression and reaction.
Mummy : Iye abang, nanti kita ajak daddy pg tgk big fish, small fish, crab, sotong, ok?? Abang suka ke tak?
Amirul : Suka la mummy
Ever since Amirul started talking, he talk a lot although still sound pelat. He also stammered. Doesn’t matters, pelat or stammered, the thing is he is showing lot of improvement which is me and Mr Hubby very proud of him. Whenever i told he something he likes to say, ” Yeke Mummy, yeke” Oh Abang, you sound so adult and cute.. huhu
Back to the Amirul’s school visit 2 weeks ago which is on 17/3/12 (Tuesday). They went to High 5 Bread Town and Mini Aquaria in Shah Alam. I do not follow Amirul because Mr Hubby said, let Amirul enjoy the moment with his friends and teacher.
Deep down in my heart I’m worried :
[1] Is Amirul behave and listen to his teachers instructions
[2] Is Amirul tell his teachers when he need to go to toilet
[3] Is Amirul wont be cranky
[4] Is Amirul safe in his teachers care
[5] If anything happened during their journey how??
[6] If suddenly, Amirul go missing, not in his group or follow the stranger. haishhhhh
Banyak pulak risaunya, Mr Hubby cakap.. Normal la tue, this is Amirul 1st outing without us and he is only 4 years old. I sebangai his Mummy yg cepat risau and suka fikir bukan2. All this things came into my thought.
Lets enjoy the photo, taken from his teacher FB
Complimentary gift from High 5 Bread Town
Amirul goes to school and he is happy. Widad goes to school, she is happy. When they happy, Mummy Daddy also happy. Because Mummy Daddy go to work hoping that they enjoy the moment while we are not around. As a parent who need to work for living [of course. since both of us are not born as millionaire, huhu] we really depend on the the caretaker at daycare.
I am not totally depend and 100% trust the caretaker, I will occasionally check on them. Check in the sense of their activities, school environment and cleanliness, sleeping areas. Hahahha, I am typical mother.
How I do the checking,
[1] There is a notice board at school’s living room. Every activity done by the children, they will display over there, and i everyweek will go and check on Amirul’s work. plus snap the photos
[2] How to check toilet hygiene : Mummy, abang nk weewee la, ok pergi toilet weewee. I ikut la Amirul skali pg toilet walhal, our house just few step away.
[3] How to check kitchen hygiene : I saw Widad comot with dirty hand, Adik jom wash hand kat kitchen.
[4] How to check sleeping area: Adik where’s your doldol [Widad's babydoll]. Kat atas Mummy, jom pg amik, nanti mummy nk wash.
Regarding their school activities, I’m satisfied and glad at least Amirul can write, read, recognize, memorize and he is enjoy the 9 hours stay there
Fish Wall Paper
Cut and paste and Mr Bread
Physical exercise – spot amirul & widad
Creative activity
Story telling and Maths
We are abang & adik .Peace no war
Amirul was given 2 worksheets to finish during the weekend.
However,i think the given worksheets not suitable for Amirul.
Ordering Numbers
For age 4years old:
The average 4-year-old can count up to ten, although he may not get the numbers in the right order every time – Babycentre
Amirul’s Ability : He can count up to 10. But he sometimes do not get the numbers in right order.
Good Side :
Bad Side :
Is this Amirul’s homework or mine?? What is the objective of this homewor??
NOTE : Again, kids nowadays live in very challenging world. Just looked at the worksheet given to the children, that was my standard 1 homework back in 1990.
Peace yooo!!!
Amirul no longer shy to pose infront of camera
klakar pun ada bler tgk semua gmbr pesyen sama je gayanya.tp ok la,at least Amirul nk amik gambar..huhh
Baru 4 years old dh ada homework???
Unbelieveable but thats what happen to Amirul. The teachers gave him homework not everyday or everyweekend.but everytime there is public holiday he will be given 2/3 spreadsheet to finished.
I take it on the positive side which is good that Amirul practising what he does at school. Just like below photo, he managed to write word ‘RED’ hasil dari blaja kt school and homework yg teacher kasik. Buku tue our own collection not from school. Bagus la, 4 tahun dh bleh menulis.
But on the negative side, i don’ think 4 years old preschooler should be given homework. They go to school to have fun through learning. However, homework is not fun at all and is stressfull when you don’t want to do it.
Kids nowadays living in very competative world. Parents want to have kids yang pandai Membaca, Menulis dan Mengira before enter the primary school. If possible nak anak2 blaja additional language eg: mandarin or arabic. Not to be kiasu tapi that the fact that we have to face and accept and adapt to it.
One word to describe the feeling when taking out both Amirul and Widad without Mr Hubby.
FUHHH !!!
fuh means two things.[1] Its amazing. [2] Its tiring
This is my first time having kids day out without Mr Hubby. 3hours at Alamanda Putrajaya is such an amazing and tiring experience to me.
Amazing because i can handle one cheeky toddler and one shy but full of idea in mind toddler. 1st, i brought them to Toys r us. ok la. both of them behave despite of Amirul keep repeating “Mummy Abang nk Transformer”. and mummy lak keep repeating.. “ooo kna wait daddy Abang. Mummy xde duit”. ok.mummy xde duit.nt abang mntk duit ngn Daddy. selama dlm Toys r us, Amirul dok ckp cmtue. huhu
Then i brought them to playgroud area near to Parkson. ok la dorang main.
kemain lg dok main kan
Then lunch at Pizza. This one very choatic. Abang Adik both lapar and started to cranky. Ayohhhh.pengsan. Both keep asking for soup, adik nk milk, abang adik main sudu garfu.ketuk2. Mummy started to be an anoyying customer. kejap mntk sup.kejap mntk sudu plastic…huhuhu.
Hungry kids
In the middle of eating, Amirul lak nk yakyak.pingsan skali lagi..Adussss.Settle yakyak. continue eating then i decided to directly go back home. tak mau singgah mner2 dh. Penat dh..adoiii nak balik, dorang started to be cranky again. Maybe both dh sleepy sbb pnt main n kekenyang. Berebut naik stroller la. Pastu both xmo dok stroller la. nak main kejar2 la..
Moh le pulang wahai anak. Mummy sudah pingsan. How i which to have octopus hands. So that i can hold both of Amirul Widad’s hand n push the stroller and held the plastic bag.aishhhh
Reached home:
Amirul slept but Widad still
awake. But half and hour later
both sleep soundly
Fuhhhh. What an amazing and tiring day for Mummy..
DEC 2011 @ Pusat Perubatan Pakar Annur, Bangi
Amirul admitted Pusat Perubatan Pakar Annur due to brancial cyst
Muka sedih, berlakon lebih ni sbb Amirul manja with me. uhuhuh
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