When raising children there are a lot of situations that can be difficult to handle. One of the most difficult is deciding how you want to handle when your children are doing something wrong. Whether it be a common practice that they are not doing in the most efficient way or if they are doing something that is morally wrong. It is important to decide how you want to handle these issues. Here are some tips that may help you decide:
1. Positive Reinforcement
Some parents make the choice to deal with their children positively, no matter what the situation. This path is often seen as the best way to avoid stifling their creativity and the person that they truly are. Positive reinforcement is defined as “the offering of desirable effects or consequences for a behavior with the intention of increasing the chance of that behavior being repeated in the future”. This means that in order to use positive reinforcement when your child needs to be corrected the process would be to show them the correct way of doing things and reward them when they proceed in that fashion, and also when they continue to do so in the future. This reward can be anything from complimenting them on the way that they have done something to a physical reward. Whatever you decide the reward to be, making sure the child knows what they are being rewarded for, otherwise the reward is wasted and their behavior will not be reinforced.
2. Negative Reinforcement
Negative reinforcement is on the opposite end of the spectrum, but can be used in some situations, while still using positive reinforcement in others. Negative reinforcement is defined as “the reinforcing of a response by giving an aversive stimulus when the response is not made and omitting the aversive stimulus when the response is made”. This means that when you see your child doing something wrong that they need to be corrected for, you make it uncomfortable for them to continue doing this negative action. For example, if you witnessed your child hitting another child while they were playing, using negative reinforcement would mean doing something like pulling them aside and scolding them. Depending on the situation, other examples of negative reinforcement can include spanking, scolding, taking something away from them, grounding them, and anything else a parent sees fit that will teach their child a lesson. Negative reinforcement can be difficult for some parents because they do not enjoy making their children upset. It is a judgement call based on personal preference whether or not a parent wants to practice negative reinforcement in their home.
No matter what way you decide to correct your child, whether you use negative reinforcement, positive reinforcement, or a combination of the two, it is most important that you be consistent in what you expect from your child or children. It is important that they know what is expected of them and this will be unclear and confusing to them if the standards are constantly changing.
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Author Pam Johnson enjoys mothering her children and blogging. She is a contributing writer for creditreport.org.