One thing that I learned about a girl — especially my girl , is that she wants to share all the problem in the world, even the problem is not hers, and she talks even when I watch a movie. In the end, she frown in frustration as I always gave solutions right before she finished talking. Or, I didn’t want to listen about it so I simply ignored it. Then, I realized that’s not the way to treat a girl — especially my girl. Most of the girls actually knew the solution, which I find it so outrageous. They only want somebody to talk with.
“Giving solutions when the person is really looking for a listening ear. Probably an understatement: A lot of times what people want is a listening ear. Deep down, people have solutions to the problems they are facing – they are just looking for someone to share their frustrations with because they have had a long and hard day. I had a friend who would always butt in with suggestions whenever I shared my frustrations. Our conversations became stifling – in the end I stopped talking about them altogether because I wasn’t getting the refuge I wanted. Be more conscious of what the other party is looking for, and adjust accordingly to fit that.”
I slowly change my attitude and try to listen about anything she wants to talk about. Even though my mind will be going somewhere the moment she starts to open her mouth, I’ll try and try hard to nod and smile.